https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKiV3FNpXhk&t=48s
Memory consolidation and reconsolidation
How we may update our memory
When you have an aha-experience, experience a new insight:
When we experience a new memory in our short term memory, it is unstabile. We may consolidate the new memory into long term memory. To make the new unstabile memory stabile, the brain has to make some protein synthesis. It takes time, 10-20 seconds for a single memory detail? What may help is to calm down, stress down, be very relaxed, be aware, write down the new memory, repeat/say it explicitely, feel it, savor/feelgood with it/store it.
If you stress forward, talk more, listen to others are speaking, then you may easily forget to use your attention to update your memory.